Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Time is the healer

Today, I am writing about forgiveness. Actually, I am totally 100% the wrong person to write about this beautiful topic. But then, I have an average human's view on forgiveness. So, while I don't believe in 'forgive and forget'.. or rather, let me say, it's pretty conditional. I find it easy to forgive and forget, if amends have been made, efforts have been made to make up. But just like that? Oh I dunno. I believe in forgiveness, definitely lies the merit. It helps you more than anyone else. It makes your life easier. So that, is a given. But it's the forget part that bothers me sometimes. And that's where time plays the healer. I believe, the trick to forget, is to let go of grudges with time, to people who haven't made an effort to reconcile. Time changes, people change. And beneath all this, lies one firm reality. Every single person has that something special about them, is good at heart. There's something good about everyone. As I firmly believe, every single person HAS to be respected. The way they act, the way we act, is pretty situational, circumstantial.

There are people I've held horrible grudges against. But when I meet them after eons, I think, no wait. That was then. What is it now? Now I give a smile and if I get one, bingo! I am on the path to becoming lighter in the head. Well, that's my mad fundaa. Dunno how's it with you. Do you do that too? Or you decide never ever to bump into those offenders again? I tried to do that, but hey, life is short, world is a small place. Avoidance is certainly not the solution. Every person you forgive with a smile, is every heavy nerve of your brain freed of all that strain. It still takes me time to practice forgiveness. It's damn hard. It's like swallowing a bitter pill. But then I think of all those who have forgiven me, for numerous faults of mine, and I think, what am I? the eternity? the divinity? of course not. That brings me to this very simple and beautiful phrase.. what a pity, it gets lost in the world of intelligence, but treat others the way you'd like to be treated. It's just that. Wouldn't we all want forgiveness.. a second chance? some trust and some love? Ok, I am not getting back to the spiritual happy ending of nirvana and forgiveness. All I am saying is, be open to changing your judgments, letting go of your prejudices and allow time to heal. Forgiveness, will then just follow. :) 

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Dream. And that's when the story begins...

What would life be without dreams? Dreams.. that help us be what we aren't. Dreams, that help us achieve, what we don't. Dreams that help us do, what we can't. No wonder, when reality fails to make us happy, we take the help of dreams, to avoid putting a full stop to our needs.

Many believe dreams are dreams, not meant to become a reality. For them, dreams have a sacred and sacrosanct place in life. It helps them de-stress, feel better, but they do not expect anything from their dreams. It's like coming back to reality and saying 'forget it.' That's a pretty widespread bread of people.

Then there are some, who know somethings can never happen, and make them happen in their dreams. Here I am talking about love, relationships and more. Actually, love is something, that should never be taken as a goal, you can't achieve it, you can't succeed in it, if it is not meant to happen. Ditto for all other relationships. If there's anything that has to be left to the flow of life, it's relationships. And hence, we often dream about the perfect relationships in our lives... because what will happen in reality, no one has ever known.

And then, there are those, who dream and then pick up the dream to be an object of obsessive desire, just like a 2 yr old child would set his eyes on a fancy toy and go non-stop 'I WANT THAT'. These are dreams that you HAVE to, WANT to and are WILLING to convert to reality. These are in short, what we call, 'Dream come true'. These dreams are perhaps the hardest to achieve. They have a path which lingers for years and they require dedication that sucks up all the will power and determination that you'd have. They teach you the power of hope. They test patience. They are not something everyone will set to achieve. But those who do, will win a landmark in their own lives, inspire others and set the tone of truth to this wonderful tagline Nike has. Impossible is nothing.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Being Correct

Correct people are irritating. You can't do anything about them. You will mostly hate them, but there is this string of conscious mind that will keep pulling you towards them. You will seldom love them but you will always respect them and if you have to believe someone blindly, it will be them.

Because, being correct isn't easy. We lose correctness in the bid to being diplomatic. We give relationships and networking more importance than we give the honesty and correctness of our work. Oops.. we don't want to rub some people the wrong way. But we don't mind going the wrong way. Being correct, is courage to be indifferent, rude and tough so that you are deceiving nobody, not even yourself. Being correct means doing your own thing, doing what makes you happy, doing what you think is right for you, even while the world is busy adoring itself in the mirror and busy charming others.

Symptoms of being correct are evident. Most often than not, those who are correct are victims of jealousy, isolation, accused of being snobbish, misunderstood or skeptically judged. If you face all of this at once, and you remotely think you're correct, yes, may be you are. Correctness and coolness do not go hand in hand. True, what is correct is subjective, but then you know what I am talking about.

How important it is to be correct? Now that is a discussion. Because many would say 'who cares?'. After all its my favourite quote, life is indeed a matter of choice. If you choose to be correct, then you shall face the consequences. While most of these consequences don't look too inviting, correctness is the road less traveled, and roads less traveled often lead you to the most marvelous places. So go on :) Enjoy your journey while the world broods over you.